Your parenting mojo

But anything that helps you understand your brain and personal issues better will also help with parenting. So also try:

The Happiness Lab

Hidden Brain

School of Life (YouTube channel)

People online tend to recommend therapy to everyone,and I’m sure therapy is great if you can access it. But you can read, listen, watch, learn and improve through self reflection…and heal wounds you never knew about.

The thing I’m really missing is finding a good dad group or parent group to join. I would love some peer support.

I’m good with my parents. They have their normal human flaws, which I accept happily.

Are you a parent yourself? It’s really difficult. You can’t help but bring a lot of baggage. There’s a podcast I lesten to, to improve parenting that runs a workshop called “taming your triggers”. Having children exposes a lot of wounds and personal baggage. It’s really difficult to recognise and address those on yourself as a parent. Your description of expectations from a parent are so idealised, I would argue that there are very few individuals in the world who are actually successful in being that good and selfless.

This is interesting if you’ve got an hour to watch a philosophy video(link goes directly to 53min if you just want to watch a few minutes).

I’m getting better at finding new ways to break my installation. Now I don’t mess with things and just use it as is. Might start messing with stuff on my laptop rather than PC so I can mess up there instead.

You say this sarcastically, but there have been podcasts that talk about how I credibly effective this tactic is.

I thought breast support was the reason they use a bra.

Lack of pockets would be the sole reason if I used a bra.

I think other large supermarkets do too.

Strapping a card to the back of your phone is really the easiest alternative.

Ever had to pull the trigger?

Have you heard of “engagement optimised match making”? Have a look on YouTube.

It’s OK. This is a shower thought. It doesn’t need to stand up to rigorous scrutiny.

Your list could be applied to any business.

Wife approval factor

My wife won’t use it if she can’t see an app for it to click on to start using immediately. Going through browsers is not an option. Not having a dedicated app on the LG TV is not an option. Not being able to find something instantly means instant rejection. She refused Plex, but now sometimes uses it and has learnt to find subtitles, etc by herself.

I don’t touch my self hosted apps. If something doesn’t behave properly on the first attempt then it gets rejected from our household. It’s only for us enthusiast nerds to put up with kanky UI and setup issues for the sake of superior functionality. Normie’s won’t tolerate it.

you don’t need to give social advise to a neurotypical person

Supremely disagree.

Here’s a podcast episode I’ve heard today to illustrate the example of just how bad most “neurotypical” can be with simple social interactions:

Hidden Brain: We Need to Talk

Episode webpage: https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/we-need-to-talk/

Media file: https://dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/tracking.swap.fm/track/0bDcdoop59bdTYSfajQW/stitcher.simplecastaudio.com/df179a36-a022-41e3-bf7c-b7a4efc6f51e/episodes/1f69dbf5-87e8-41ec-8014-f494020218d4/audio/128/default.mp3?aid=rss_feed&awCollectionId=df179a36-a022-41e3-bf7c-b7a4efc6f51e&awEpisodeId=1f69dbf5-87e8-41ec-8014-f494020218d4&feed=kwWc0lhf

It is ALWAYS bad advice. “Be yourself” is the most pointless thing to say to anyone. It doesn’t help the recipient at all. Same for “be a better person”. You could say “be genuine” and that would be slightly more helpful.

From my background in education: under-performers tend to be poor judges of their position, tend to have no idea what good performance looks like or how to get there, and tend to surround themselves with similar under-performers. So someone who is underperforming in a social role (making friends, fitting into their work place, dating, etc) needs a lot more focused and good quality feedback.

People making content for NSFW subreddits makes sense to me now that there’s good money to be made.

I didn’t really understand the motivation before when so many people made regular content for internet strangers for nothing. Especially when so many of the comments are so sleazy and rapey.

Fellow OpenSUSE Chad 🤙

Where/how do I check or know what impact that has? I think this just further strengthens the point that Lemmy is not welcoming to normal users at all and is just for specialist nerds.

Makes sense once there’s enough of a userbase…but currently there isn’t a huge amount of content of interest on Lemmy and sticking to a local instance just limits this even more. Currently I have to stick to “all” as even areas of subscription can run out of content with a quick scroll session.

I’m pretty techie and I’ve been here for months. I still don’t fully understand why it matters and how a different instance would have changed my experience. The fediverse is so fragmented, it would be dumb to stick to one instance. My app is always set to browse “all”. Everyone commenting seems to be from different instances. I’m certainly not going to start reading about different instances at signup when it presents the fact that you will be able to access all instances anyway. I picked randomly from one of the most popular choices. This whole process of a selection of an instance sounded good to software engineers, and sure this is how the technology fits together…but these are “back end” issues that I (and other normies) don’t care about at all. Users do not want to get into the weeds of how the back end works and it is certainly off putting.

Tumbleweed brotherhood ✊

It doesn’t get used or recommended enough.