Debian with kde, because it looked a bit like Windows.

Then slackware because it was supposedly a “simple” Linux distro. Apparently simple doesn’t mean simple to use for a newbie…

For sure, I don’t think I strictly belong to either of the stereotypes

People here are apparently either foss neckbeards or transfems/femboys, and they are all valid.

Trans dev here, I hear that hacker spaces aren’t bad places to look. I wouldn’t know though, too shy to actually show up -.-